Iliana asks :

Hi Lucy,

I went on a date with a guy this weekend. We had an amazing time and kissed quite a bit and now he's ignoring me. Why could this be when things were definitely going well?


Hi Iliana,

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He might have been busy and neglected to text you because his mind has been on work or something else.

Perhaps your opinions of the how the night went differ.

Have you text him a lot despite him not replying? If so then it might be time to dial it back a bit- if he reads his phone and sees lots of messages from you which he hasn't replied to, it might scare him off.

Some people like to leave people hanging as it gives them a sense of control or power. If this is the case- are you willing to put up with such games after just one date?

If he was really interested he would have made time to text you- perhaps there is an inbalance in the feelings you have for each other after your date.

If he is unwilling to give you some feedback after your date then it might be worth moving on and finding someone who will put in the time with you over text and in person.

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