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28 October 2020

Should I ask my husband to get a DNA test?

Mig Bennett says: You don’t say how your husband feels about the unexpected contact from his daughter, but it reads as very unsettling for you. Our ‘secure attachment bond’ of ...
27 October 2020

Does he have hidden feelings for me?

Rachael Lloyd, relationship expert from eHarmony says: Hi there, Beware of intermittent flattery. This guy who is already in a relationship has you exactly where he wants you. He can ...

14 October 2020

Why am I so upset about what I found in the letter?

Relationship expert at eHarmony Rachael Lloyd says: Hi there, It sounds like you are in a lot of pain around your husband’s relationship with this woman, and have yet to ...
13 October 2020

I'm torn between two men, who should I choose?

Rachael Lloyd, Relationship expert at eHarmony says: I could write you the standard response to this kind of email, the one where I get to stay ‘stay away from married ...
12 October 2020

Why won't he meet up with me after a month of talking?

Psychotherapist Noel McDermott comments: “Online dating is our norm and has been for some time now but especially so in the current climate. It’s helping a lot of people but we ...
11 October 2020

My parents don't like my partner-any advice?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “This Covid crisis is a nightmare for all of us. It is not just the profound restrictions on our movements that is making life so ...
10 October 2020

Should I sacrifice my own happiness or stay in this relationship?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “Poor you - I really for you and am frankly surprised and disappointed that embarking on this new relationship has sparked such hostility from those ...
9 October 2020

The man I was having an affair with has died and I want to say my goodbyes- any advice?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “First of all, my deepest sympathies. I am not here to make moral judgments. You fell in love with a man while married to someone ...
8 October 2020

Should I be worried about what I found in my boyfriend's memory box?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “I think this is only an issue if he is getting this box out at regular intervals and showing obvious signs that he is still ...
2 October 2020

How can I broach this sensitive subject with my friend?

Mig Bennett says: The whole ‘round buying’ culture is a social acceptance norm where being in a round marks you as someone who is accepted – group membership matters. It ...
1 October 2020

How can I break the pattern I've got myself in?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “This a tricky one and I really feel for you. You sound like you’re great fun and really don't deserve to be treated this way. ...
30 September 2020

How do I stop attracting the wrong kind of guy?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “Don’t be too hard on yourself - you are only 20 and have a lot of life to live and a lot to learn about ...
29 September 2020

Is he leaving the door open for a future relationship?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “I am sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but I don’t think this guy sees you as girlfriend material and I think he ...
28 September 2020

Is there ever such a thing as the right person at the wrong time?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “I really feel for you. It is so tough finding the right partner and a little soul destroying  when someone breaks things off just as ...
22 September 2020

My boyfriend says he can't be bothered with me- any advice?

Sami Wunder, dating & relationship coach says: The challenge here is two things -  If you´re working that long and that hard my darling, you probably have little time and ...
19 September 2020

How can I tell my wife I don't want her son to come and stay with us again?

Noel McDermott says: It’s difficult to know from what you say how much you and your wife have discussed this. I’m not sure what her thinking is for having him ...
18 September 2020

Why does my boyfriend prefer to dress up than spend time with me?

Dominique says: Hi there, Reading your question it sounds to me like you have more than one concern in your relationship that are potentially blending into each other. Have you ...
15 September 2020

My best friend has lost the plot- any advice?

Rachael Lloyd from eHarmony says: Hi there, Firstly, let me say you sound like a lovely friend. You are genuinely worried about your friend when you could simply be judgemental and ...
14 September 2020

How much time can I reasonably give to this relationship that's going nowhere?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “You are right to be concerned. I see very little prospect of this man helping you to achieve your dreams of marriage and motherhood. He ...
13 September 2020

Our relationship is very bog standard- any advice?

Rlationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “Your boyfriend sounds like he is a very selfish lover. It makes me wonder if he is selfish in other aspects of his life. I ...
12 September 2020

Is it normal to argue with your partner all the time?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “I really feel for you and worry for the future of your relationship. You have made huge sacrifices for your partner - shifting ...
11 September 2020

Should I tell my partner about the thoughts I've been having?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “I would love to know how old you are because this would help me to assess your situation far better. I suspect that ...
10 September 2020

How can I get over my ex husband of eight years?

Mig Bennett says: “It seems that a lot in your life isn’t bringing you happiness and connection. You mention where you live and your lack of friends. Sometimes when our ...
8 September 2020

Is this relationship really as bad as it sounds?

Noel McDermott says: “I don’t think you are in love, I think you are suffering from chronically low self esteem. The idea you would risk everything you have built for ...